The Secret Of Getting Through Today

In A World Where That Sometimes Seems Impossible



As many of us try to figure out what is happening in our world and what to do about it, many are trying to figure out how to get through this one day.

There are those of us who are struggling so bad that they are trying to get through this one hour or even this single moment.

The struggle to get through today visits most of us in one form or another, but is varies greatly. For some, it means to get through this day and find a way to feed our children. For others, it is getting through the day without putting a deadly substance into our bodies.

Some of us are so hopeless that all we want is to get through the next hour without harming ourselves. There are those among us that are just trying to get through this day with somewhere warm and dry to sleep tonight. Others just want to get through this day without crying at work or having a breakdown.

Some of us just want to get through this moment without being harmed by our abuser and others want to get through it without abusing themselves or someone else.

There are those of us who have Covid-19 and simply hope to get through this day without developing complications and those who have it and wish to get through this very moment, alive, because they cannot breathe.

One does not truly get to live the moment when the primary focus is to get through it.

Moments are meant to be lived. But sometimes, life is so hard that all we wish for is to get through them alive or unscathed. Right now — 9 months from the day that I realized something really bad was about to happen — there are many more of us who are just trying to get through this day, hour, or moment than 9 months ago. This pandemic has affected everyone in some way — whether mentally, financially, emotionally, physically, or spiritually. All of the above for many. The current world crisis has robbed so many of us and taken so many of our moments that we are often left completely fragmented.

For nine months of moments, we have been fragmented even more than we already were.

We are in pieces.

To the left and the right. Up and down. Good and bad. Fake and real. Each concept divides us further from others while simultaneously dividing the energy within us until we are so fragmented we cannot see straight.


I do not know how to save the world.

I don’t know if the virus is real or fake or minimized or dramatized. I don’t know which public officials are not scumbags or even if that exists at all. I don’t know if this is the beginning of an elaborate and very long-term plan of the one percent — the stage primarily focused on wearing at our resolve — or if we are just seeing a corrupt group of so-called leaders responding to circumstances. I don’t know if the vaccine is safe or unsafe or even if it is really a vaccine. Hell, I don’t even know the definition of the word racism anymore unless I know who I am talking to and what version of what dictionary they have most recently read.

I do not know how to fix this and if I took my best guess, I would say, neither do you.

No magic wand can be waved to help the people who have lost their homes due to the pandemic or ensure they all have a place to sleep tonight. There is no way to feed every hungry person today or even save every small business owner who usually provides food for the hungry — but whose doors are closed due to Covid. We have no magic looking glass to see the truth behind the lies — no way of knowing what is real, beyond a shadow of a doubt. We can’t save the 8,000+ people who will die today with Covid-19 and we can’t know for sure how many died. No real solution is available to solve the debilitating race problem and it will likely be unavailable until we unify, which looks much further off than it did 9 months ago. I could add Infinitum.

One thing is certain though. If the solution ever does come — we won’t be here to see it through if we do not get through this day, this hour, and this moment. And many of us are struggling with just that.

May we give grace to others and to ourselves—may we get through this moment, this day, this month and this year, together. And no matter how many more weeks months or years we must get through before we see light at the end of the tunnel, I hope enough of us keep going.


For those who are struggling, I give you the takeaway that works for me.

There is a secret of life that will help anyone who is struggling just to get through the day or even this moment. This is the power of focus coupled with a generous spirit. It is the art of the unacquisitive mindset.

When it comes to people, places, and things, you do not focus on what you have to gain but what you have to give. Instead of looking for what you can take from the situation, you look for what you can bring to it. Rumor has it when you focus on what you will give, you receive naturally. But, when you focus on what you will receive, you are always left wanting. Whether that is true or false, there is one thing that is clear. The art of the unacquisitive mindset will get you through this moment, this hour, and even this day.

When all else fails and you feel like you cannot go forward, find someone to help. Anyone. Help the neighbor carry the groceries. Find someone online who posted because they need support. Help your kid with their homework. Help the dog go outside to go number two. Help that friend mount their TV on the wall.

Anything.

Just find someone to help.

Anyone.

The next thing you know, it will be the next hour and before long it will be tomorrow.

Written by Holly Kellums


As many of us try to figure out what is happening in our world and what to do about it, many are trying to figure out how to get through this one day.

There are those of us who are struggling so bad that they are trying to get through this one hour or even this single moment.

The struggle to get through today visits most of us in one form or another, but is varies greatly. For some, it means to get through this day and find a way to feed our children. For others, it is getting through the day without putting a deadly substance into our bodies.

Some of us are so hopeless that all we want is to get through the next hour without harming ourselves. There are those among us that are just trying to get through this day with somewhere warm and dry to sleep tonight. Others just want to get through this day without crying at work or having a breakdown.

Some of us just want to get through this moment without being harmed by our abuser and others want to get through it without abusing themselves or someone else.

There are those of us who have Covid-19 and simply hope to get through this day without developing complications and those who have it and wish to get through this very moment, alive, because they cannot breathe.

One does not truly get to live the moment when the primary focus is to get through it.

Moments are meant to be lived. But sometimes, life is so hard that all we wish for is to get through them alive or unscathed. Right now — 9 months from the day that I realized something really bad was about to happen — there are many more of us who are just trying to get through this day, hour, or moment than 9 months ago. This pandemic has affected everyone in some way — whether mentally, financially, emotionally, physically, or spiritually. All of the above for many. The current world crisis has robbed so many of us and taken so many of our moments that we are often left completely fragmented.

For nine months of moments, we have been fragmented even more than we already were.

We are in pieces.

To the left and the right. Up and down. Good and bad. Fake and real. Each concept divides us further from others while simultaneously dividing the energy within us until we are so fragmented we cannot see straight.


I do not know how to save the world.

I don’t know if the virus is real or fake or minimized or dramatized. I don’t know which public officials are not scumbags or even if that exists at all. I don’t know if this is the beginning of an elaborate and very long-term plan of the one percent — the stage primarily focused on wearing at our resolve — or if we are just seeing a corrupt group of so-called leaders responding to circumstances. I don’t know if the vaccine is safe or unsafe or even if it is really a vaccine. Hell, I don’t even know the definition of the word racism anymore unless I know who I am talking to and what version of what dictionary they have most recently read.

I do not know how to fix this and if I took my best guess, I would say, neither do you.

No magic wand can be waved to help the people who have lost their homes due to the pandemic or ensure they all have a place to sleep tonight. There is no way to feed every hungry person today or even save every small business owner who usually provides food for the hungry — but whose doors are closed due to Covid. We have no magic looking glass to see the truth behind the lies — no way of knowing what is real, beyond a shadow of a doubt. We can’t save the 8,000+ people who will die today with Covid-19 and we can’t know for sure how many died. No real solution is available to solve the debilitating race problem and it will likely be unavailable until we unify, which looks much further off than it did 9 months ago. I could add Infinitum.

One thing is certain though. If the solution ever does come — we won’t be here to see it through if we do not get through this day, this hour, and this moment. And many of us are struggling with just that.

May we give grace to others and to ourselves—may we get through this moment, this day, this month and this year, together. And no matter how many more weeks months or years we must get through before we see light at the end of the tunnel, I hope enough of us keep going.


For those who are struggling, I give you the takeaway that works for me.

There is a secret of life that will help anyone who is struggling just to get through the day or even this moment. This is the power of focus coupled with a generous spirit. It is the art of the unacquisitive mindset.

When it comes to people, places, and things, you do not focus on what you have to gain but what you have to give. Instead of looking for what you can take from the situation, you look for what you can bring to it. Rumor has it when you focus on what you will give, you receive naturally. But, when you focus on what you will receive, you are always left wanting. Whether that is true or false, there is one thing that is clear. The art of the unacquisitive mindset will get you through this moment, this hour, and even this day.

When all else fails and you feel like you cannot go forward, find someone to help. Anyone. Help the neighbor carry the groceries. Find someone online who posted because they need support. Help your kid with their homework. Help the dog go outside to go number two. Help that friend mount their TV on the wall.

Anything.

Just find someone to help.

Anyone.

The next thing you know, it will be the next hour and before long it will be tomorrow.


Written by Holly Kellums

Originally published on Medium.com

Featured image by Robert Metz on Unsplash

Published by hollykellums

Internationally Published Author * Influencer * Recovery Coach * Human Potential Activist

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