Stop treating money as something you have to find and start treating it as something you already have — because you do
Have you ever noticed that you cannot find things when you are actively looking for them? In these times, it seems as though the more we need to find something, the more elusive it becomes.
You risk running late for an all-important meeting that you have been looking forward to for months. You had all your ducks in a row, but somehow, your keys have magically disappeared. The more you look, the more you can’t find and the more puzzled you become.
It makes absolutely no sense. You remember bringing the keys in, so they have to be there. But you have looked everywhere.
You keep looking, turning over things, looking inside things and behind things. Maybe the cat knocked them in a crack somewhere. Or maybe, they fell inside a not yet unpacked shopping bag. Oh, shit. You hope they didn’t fall into that bag that got taken out with the trash.
The trash man already came! Shit. Shit. Shit.
Then, even more, resistant thoughts come.
I am going to miss my meeting. I will never make it on time now, and if I show up late, I will have missed my long-awaited opportunity. I am failing at life. This is it, I ruined everything…
You know the rest.
If you are unaware of your thoughts, you may go with these and not find your keys. But, if you are aware, it only takes a few moments for you to choose to shift your thinking.
Holly, you are being reactive and resistant. You will never find your keys as long as you have the attitude of lost. They are here somewhere, and you will find them. All is well if you do, and all is well if you don’t. No one dies, the earth is still spinning, and you are doing fine. Just calm down. Woosah. You got this. It happens to everyone. You are doing great. All is well.
Or whatever your self-talk sounds like…
After calm rushes over you and you remember where you are, you accept whatever the outcome is and start thinking about governing yourself accordingly.
Of course, the next best thing to do is contact those concerned and let them know that you will be running behind. So you do so with confidence.
No sooner or later than you stand up and turn around to start looking again, there they are — weirdly dangling in some incredibly odd place.
You make it where you need to be with two minutes to spare.
However you explain this phenomenon, whether it be spiritual or scientific, chances are you have experienced something similar. If you haven’t, well, I would like to read your book. 😁
The bottom line is this: we will never find what we think is forever lost, and we will never have enough of what we think we are lacking. This principle applies to everything in life, but the most pressing troubles that humans encounter appear to center around money and relationships.
We have heard it said many ways you will find the love of your life when you stop looking. We talk little, though, of how our desperate search for money keeps us from it.
You already have money, even if you don’t know it
I know this sounds ridiculous to someone who lives in a tuna can or just put two dollars into their gas tank. I know because I have lived in sub-par conditions, and I have put seventy-eight cents in my gas tank. I have counted 18 pennies to buy a serving of Ramen. But, I have not counted pennies or put less than a gallon of gas in my tank for a very long time. My understanding of why is clear, and I write this with the hope that I can share that understanding with you.
So let’s get to it. Bare with my nonsense, as I assure you, this makes sense.
You already have the money.
Even if your bank account has a negative balance and even if you are months late on mortgage or rent, you have money.
You could have wracked up an award-winning amount of debt, and no matter how much debt you owe, you have all that money and more for yourself.
“But, Holly…” you say.
“I am looking at these numbers in my bank account, and they are far from where I want them to be. This is how much money I have. If I have more, please tell me where it is because I could use it right about now!”
I get it that I sound crazy saying you have money that you clearly don’t. But you do. Here’s why…
Those paper bills and those numbers on your account do not actually exist. They are not a thing. Money is nothing but a symbol — a mere placeholder. Money is nothing. The paper and numbers are just representations of the actual something. So if money is nothing but a representation of something, what is that something?
Money is currency and currency is energy. — Jen Sincero
Those numbers and pieces of paper are nothing but a representation and a placeholder for your energy — your life force. And that is something you have an unlimited and renewable supply of — as long as you are alive, of course.
Stop looking for money to find it
Don’t worry. I am not about to go all foo-foo on you and tell you to forget about money altogether and live off the land. Although, that might be cool, and I may try it someday. I will learn from the late Chris McCandless, though, and take more than a bag of rice.
I am not discounting inspired action and the pursuit of success. That is the purpose of this essay, to help you find both.
So, how do you stop looking for money to find it?
Just like your keys, you can find the money you already have as soon as you believe it is there and let go of resistance. And just like your keys, the money is there.
If money is merely currency, the currency is simply a placeholder for energy, and you have an unlimited supply of energy — you also have an unlimited supply of money.
When you realize that you already have all the money you could ever want, you stop looking for it because you don’t have to look for something you already have. But that doesn’t mean you stop there if you want to bring in the dough.
Your energy is currency, and that currency turns into cash dollars. What is money, then, other than a way to exchange the currency you already have?
If you cannot see the long row of green numbers that you wish to see on your bank account, it is not because you don’t have the currency. You do. The problem is not a lack of currency. It could be a lack of wisdom, thoughtfulness, willingness, or opportunities. Either way, it comes back to exchanging the abundant currency you have in a way that serves you the best.
You don’t have to find money — you merely have to level up on how you exchange your energy and with who; the more meaningful and valuable the exchange, the more zeroes.
When you stop looking for money, you find it because there is no resistance — no desperate, blocking thoughts and energy. When you stop thinking of money as something you have to find or risk running out of, it shows up just like your keys. All you have to do is be a willing and thoughtful participant in the exchange of your energy.
Written by Holly Kellums
Originally published on Medium.com