Why Are People Addicted to Their Sadness?
We become addicted to our sadness because it makes us feel alive in a world where we feel dead inside.
Feeling anything is better than feeling nothing.
We become addicted to our sadness because pain is beautiful.
There is no pain without passion and no heartbreak without love.
Our shared pain connects us and our compassion holds us together.
We become addicted to our sadness because people love us more when we’re sad.
When we feel sorry for ourselves, we do not have to feel guilty.
If we are the victim, we can rationalize evading responsibility for our lives and our circumstances.
Sadness is not a bad thing.
Sadness is beautiful, passionate, vulnerable and natural.
Sadness is part of who we are.
Without it we are not whole.
You must, however, avoid the trap of sadness addiction.
Sadness addiction places us in an endless cycle of unnecessary victimhood.
Embrace your sadness.
Do not discount your feelings or feel ashamed of them.
Allow yourself to cry and to grieve.
Explore your sadness.
Talk about your sadness with those who love you.
Allow your sadness to transform you.
But eventually, after its purpose is served, let it move away.
Written by Holly Kellums
Originally published on Medium.com