Even if you have never knowingly struggled with boundaries, you have engaged with people who do. Some people struggle to set and keep boundaries, while others do not respect the boundaries of others. In any case, if you dive beneath the surface, you will find the fear of rejection at the root of these common and debilitating character challenges.
Many of us have had relationships with people who we love in a very powerful way. This love feels so strong that it feels like it could heal the deepest of wounds and save the most lost souls. We feel like we could move mountains with this love. And in some ways, we can. But in other ways, we cannot. It is our inability or unwillingness to accept this that leads us towards toxic relationships and away from self-love.
Dealing with some people can feel like playing an impossible game, in which you are doomed to failure. With every effort, you feel like you are being pushed further back. There seems to be no solution when dealing with negative people.
Nothing anyone could say would make dealing with toxic, negative and destructive people a walk in the park. There are some principles and practices, however, that will give you some extra and essential gear for what is more like a treacherous mountain climb. The journey is still perilous, but at least with the right equipment, you may make it over the mountain unscathed.
Over hundreds of years, this world has given birth to the greatest minds of our history. And despite the old saying, “Great minds think alike,” many great minds do not - at least not entirely.
From Alan Watts to Sigmund Freud and everyone in between, the great minds of our evolution do not all agree - especially when it comes to matters of our purpose, existence, and our favorite of all, love.
There is one thing that most of the greatest psychologists, theologists, philosophers, seers and thinkers do agree upon, however.
Humans are social beings who yearn for approval and what we call love from other people.
Finding yourself in a toxic relationship does not mean your partner is toxic It is hard enough to know that we are in a toxic relationship, but once we have discovered this unhealthy dynamic, our mind’s next mission is to find out exactly who and what is to blame — for this toxicity we have discovered. Usually, weContinue reading “Toxic Relationships — Who Is The Toxic One?”
As it has been said, ‘love is a beautiful and many-splendored thing’. When love becomes toxic however, matters can shift to not so beautiful and downright horrific very quickly. All of the love in the world will not pull you out of the terrors of a toxic/abusive relationship. There is a moment inside of a toxic relationship when you realize that things just aren’t going to get better as they are and drastic changes have to be made on your part.
I believe that there is a gross misconception about the definition of unconditional love. It seems that a great deal of people are under the mistaken impression that in order to love people unconditionally it is necessary to endure various levels of abuse from these people.